a Coach and chatting with him/her on a regular basis, you will get
of value -- you don't have to work hard at it -- for the benefits of
to occur. This is because the synergy that occurs as a result of the
and client relationship is what makes the biggest difference to any
if you do
want to maximize the value of the Coaching relationship, here are 10
to do so that I've seen work very, very well.
Focus on how
you feel and want to feel, not just on what you want to produce.
feel the need to focus the Coaching time on how to produce more
or financial results. But don't forget the intangibles, such as feeling
happier, more peaceful and more inspired. Results are very important,
the feelings you experience during your day are equally important.
of a brick wall -- the bricks are the results, the mortar is the
Enjoy having both.
what matters most to you.
about anything you want to during the Coaching session. This includes
goals, your life, your needs, what you want to improve, what's
you, an idea you have, a problem you are dealing with, even stuff that
may not appear to be all that 'useful' to talk about. It's surprising
a difference it makes in the long run when you focus on what you most
want to talk about during Coaching, not what you feel you 'should' talk
about during the session in order to get the most value from your
yourself so that you see and experience things earlier than before.
time is collapsing, meaning that things are happening faster and faster
and that the pace of change continues to increase. For some, this
stress because they feel both the pressure to keep up and the fear of
left behind. But for others, they recognize this phenomena as a chance
to recognize opportunities as they occur, instead of seeing them too
How does one do this? By reducing whatever is clouding your ability to
see or numbing your ability to sense; we call this process 'sensitizing
yourself.' The more you can feel, the faster you can respond to events
and opportunities. You sensitize yourself by reducing or eliminating
television, adrenaline, stress and caffeine.
during the 10,000 minutes of your week not just the 30 minutes of your
minutes in a 7-day week. Coaching is occurring all during your week,
just during your Coaching session -- such is the power of Coaching and
the Coaching relationship. What you and you Coach talk about during
sessions will resonate with you during your week, and some of the seeds
or ideas that have been discussed will grow between sessions. All you
to do is to fully live your life between Coaching sessions and be open
to seeing what you and your Coach talked about.
the drain and strain in your life.
because it focuses you in two areas. First, you'll be helped to stretch
yourself further, take more actions than you would on your own, and
effective strategies to get what you want. At the same time, you will
be identifying and reducing things that drain and strain you, such as
stressful situations, difficult relationships, pressured environments
recurring problems. So, don't just hoist a bigger sail, make sure there
are no cracks or barnacles on your hull.
space, not just time, in your life
room in order to work. If you're too busy, rushed, adrenalined or
you'll be using Coaching to push yourself harder, instead of using
to become more effective. We strongly suggest that you put some
on hold, reduce your roles, simplify your day, reduce your goals,
your work, install personal management systems, etc., before or
after starting with a Coach. Simplification gets you space. Space is
to learn and evolve yourself beyond where you are today.
about you and what you most want. As such, you'll probably need to
putting yourself first if you haven't done so already. At the very
you'll want to be come selfish, in the sense that you
most. When you are happy and are doing well, others will benefit as
to seeing things differently.
you will be working with your goals (called, the 'what') and your
to reach these goals (called, the 'how'). But you will also be working
on you (called, the 'who'). In other words, you will get more out of
if you are willing to relook at some of your assumptions, ways of
expectations, beliefs, reactions and approaches to success. There are
newly developed concepts, principles, distinctions and evolutionary
to learn. You won't be forced or even encouraged to make these changes
given they are so personal, but we do ask that you at least consider
approaches and ways of thinking and try them out to see if they work
to evolve yourself, not just develop yourself.
both a developmental process as well as an evolutionary one. In other
you'll be learning how to accomplish more with less effort -- let's
this the developmental aspect of Coaching. But you will also be
differently and expanding yourself and your world, which we call
Perhaps surprisingly, evolving is a skill
and it's worth
because life itself is evolving, not just developing.
and strengthen your personal and business environments.
Coaching can be extended if you use part of your Coaching time to
the perfect environment in which to live and work. Where you live and
you live are key to your success. Who you spend time with and are
by can make the difference between success and failure. Be willing to
some time -- and money -- in improving your environment so that you
supported to be your best.
About the Submitter
This piece was originally
Thomas J. Leonard.
Thomas is Founder of Coach
and Author of the Portable Coach.
1997 - Present; CoachVille
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